Vision Statement
Ben Speaks . . . creating a culture where all people are valued and supported to be their best selves.
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​Our Mission
Ben Speaks provides positive channels of expression for youth, families and communities through events, education and resources.
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Who is a BEN?
Are you a Ben?
Are you raising a Ben?
Are you teaching a Ben?
Do you know a Ben . . . an at-risk youth in your community
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What is a BEN?
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A Ben is unique and beats to his or her own drum
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A Ben is artistic, creative, intuitive, sensitive and empathetic
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A Ben is labelled with a mental illness or learning disability at an early age
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A Ben is often medicated
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A Ben feels like a misfit and is an easy mark for the bully or becomes one himself
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A Ben tends to self-harm in some way as a teenager
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A Ben becomes isolated and left out
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A Ben is not broken
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A Ben has one or many gifts to bring to the world
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There is a little bit of Ben in all of us
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Ben's Story
In a fleeting moment of despair, Benjamin Giovangelo, our beautiful, intuitive, creative, sensitive and loving son, chose to end his life on April 16, 2009, just six days after his 18th birthday. Benjamin struggled with Bipolar Disorder and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) beginning early on in his life, and so did his family, both with him and the stigma of mental illness.
Ben Speaks Louder Than Words was born through his loss and today is a powerful voice in the world for change through the team at Ben Speaks Louder Than Words.
Everyone knows a Ben . . . an at-risk youth in your community.
Together we can support all Ben’s to thrive.
A Ben is:
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Labelled with a mental illness or learning disability at an early age.
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Often medicated
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Artistic, creative, intuitive, sensitive and empathetic.
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Someone who feels like a misfit.
-
An easy mark for the bully or becomes one himself.
-
Someone who tends to self-harm in some way as a teenager.
-
Isolated and left out.
A Ben is NOT broken. A Ben has gifts to bring to the world. There is a little bit of Ben in all of us.
From the beginning, Ben was given medication to attempt to manage his behavior to fit him into our current education and social systems. He received the message early and often that there was something wrong with him. He experienced much ostracizing and bullying. As his parents, we did our best to find alternative ways to work with Ben and, over the years, we had learned many tools to deal with this bright, sensitive, intuitive, and energetic child.
Our family suffered greatly with little to no resources to support our son. Over the years of raising Ben, although his life ended tragically, he made great strides through a combination of supporting strategies. Through medicine, therapy, yoga, breathing techniques, the power of intention, positive channels for the emotions, monthly massage and more. We created a powerful toolbox for change for our mentally ill son, beginning with seeing and focusing on his gifts. With this combination of support and shift in consciousness, Ben, between the age of 12 and his last day of life made marked changes.
Those major shifts include going from…
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Being a student behind in school with many learning challenges to catching up and passing his MCAS exam
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80 mgs of Prozac to less than 10 mgs of Lorazapan for anxiety and 10 mgs of Ritalin for focus.
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Being overweight and low energy to growing tall and gorgeous.
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Being alone, friendless, unpopular and sitting alone for over a year at the lunch room table at his high school to growing more and more comfortable in his own skin and attracting girls like he had never known.
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So what happened? Well, in addition to his other challenges, Ben was a child who “brain-locked”, a term used by Ross Greene, PhD, the author of “The Explosive Child.” Dr. Greene is the Director of Cognitive-Behavioral Psychology at the Clinical and Research Program in Pediatric Psychopharmacology at the Massachusetts General Hospital. This book describes “brain-lock” as the clinical and physical response to the ability of the OCD brain to process immense frustration. Brain-locking adequately describes the thousands of times when Ben would come up against situations where he couldn’t get what he wanted and acted extremely inappropriately. He would literally fight to his death in opposition to controlling forces. Those of us around him had to find creative, innovative approaches to move through whatever issues arose on a daily basis. He wanted things to be fair and just.
Whenever something came in the form of force or “power over,” he was a counter force to be reckoned with and would push back even harder. It was very difficult for Ben and us as his family unit, stress-filled and intense on a daily basis, but we had made great strides by the time his 18th birthday arrived, so much so that Ben was finally making and holding onto friendships, getting better grades, and holding a job. Socially, he succeeded in becoming a kid that was loved after many years of “not fitting in.” He was on top of the world.
An incident occurred on April 16, 2009 that resulted in Ben’s suspension from school and from attending his prom, which must have felt like having the rug pulled out from underneath this one major success in his short life - social acceptance by his peers. On the day he took his life, we believe the loss of his prom caused him to brain-lock. We wish that this decision had not been made so quickly and do not understand why, given Ben’s history, we did not have a chance to meet with his team collectively before his sentence was handed down. If we had, I believe that Ben would still be here with us now.
Ben went home and took his life that day. His last message to us included the line “I just don’t see the point.” Resignation at so young an age, after 18 years of pushing against an antiquated system… and currently we have an epidemic of suicide amongst our young people. Since his death, Ben has been speaking louder than words to me, his mother. I am taking a stand because we must find better ways to support these gifted, sensitive, and exceptional children.
There is a lot that I still do not know or understand. But what I do know is this: every day is a choice and each of us, no matter what life challenges we face, get to choose life or death in every moment and that we are powerful creators without measure.
Through Ben, I have become a role model for change and a teacher, mentor and voice for accountability and growing oneself strong from the inside out. I live my life in gratitude for this opportunity to serve through the countless lessons and blessings I have learned in the raising and loss of Ben Giovangelo, who continues to be my greatest teacher.
With All My Love,
Judy Giovangelo
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Vision Statement
Ben Speaks . . . creating a culture where all people are valued and supported to be their best selves.
​
​Our Mission
Ben Speaks provides positive channels of expression for youth, families and communities through events, education and resources.
​
Who is a BEN?
Are you a Ben?
Are you raising a Ben?
Are you teaching a Ben?
Do you know a Ben . . . an at-risk youth in your community
​
What is a BEN?
-
A Ben is unique and beats to his or her own drum
-
A Ben is artistic, creative, intuitive, sensitive and empathetic
-
A Ben is labelled with a mental illness or learning disability at an early age
-
A Ben is often medicated
-
A Ben feels like a misfit and is an easy mark for the bully or becomes one himself
-
A Ben tends to self-harm in some way as a teenager
-
A Ben becomes isolated and left out
-
A Ben is not broken
-
A Ben has one or many gifts to bring to the world
-
There is a little bit of Ben in all of us
​
Ben's Story
In a fleeting moment of despair, Benjamin Giovangelo, our beautiful, intuitive, creative, sensitive and loving son, chose to end his life on April 16, 2009, just six days after his 18th birthday. Benjamin struggled with Bipolar Disorder and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) beginning early on in his life, and so did his family, both with him and the stigma of mental illness.
Ben Speaks Louder Than Words was born through his loss and today is a powerful voice in the world for change through the team at Ben Speaks Louder Than Words.
Everyone knows a Ben . . . an at-risk youth in your community.
Together we can support all Ben’s to thrive.
A Ben is:
-
Labelled with a mental illness or learning disability at an early age.
-
Often medicated
-
Artistic, creative, intuitive, sensitive and empathetic.
-
Someone who feels like a misfit.
-
An easy mark for the bully or becomes one himself.
-
Someone who tends to self-harm in some way as a teenager.
-
Isolated and left out.
A Ben is NOT broken. A Ben has gifts to bring to the world. There is a little bit of Ben in all of us.
From the beginning, Ben was given medication to attempt to manage his behavior to fit him into our current education and social systems. He received the message early and often that there was something wrong with him. He experienced much ostracizing and bullying. As his parents, we did our best to find alternative ways to work with Ben and, over the years, we had learned many tools to deal with this bright, sensitive, intuitive, and energetic child.
Our family suffered greatly with little to no resources to support our son. Over the years of raising Ben, although his life ended tragically, he made great strides through a combination of supporting strategies. Through medicine, therapy, yoga, breathing techniques, the power of intention, positive channels for the emotions, monthly massage and more. We created a powerful toolbox for change for our mentally ill son, beginning with seeing and focusing on his gifts. With this combination of support and shift in consciousness, Ben, between the age of 12 and his last day of life made marked changes.
Those major shifts include going from…
-
Being a student behind in school with many learning challenges to catching up and passing his MCAS exam
-
80 mgs of Prozac to less than 10 mgs of Lorazapan for anxiety and 10 mgs of Ritalin for focus.
-
Being overweight and low energy to growing tall and gorgeous.
-
Being alone, friendless, unpopular and sitting alone for over a year at the lunch room table at his high school to growing more and more comfortable in his own skin and attracting girls like he had never known.
​
So what happened? Well, in addition to his other challenges, Ben was a child who “brain-locked”, a term used by Ross Greene, PhD, the author of “The Explosive Child.” Dr. Greene is the Director of Cognitive-Behavioral Psychology at the Clinical and Research Program in Pediatric Psychopharmacology at the Massachusetts General Hospital. This book describes “brain-lock” as the clinical and physical response to the ability of the OCD brain to process immense frustration. Brain-locking adequately describes the thousands of times when Ben would come up against situations where he couldn’t get what he wanted and acted extremely inappropriately. He would literally fight to his death in opposition to controlling forces. Those of us around him had to find creative, innovative approaches to move through whatever issues arose on a daily basis. He wanted things to be fair and just.
Whenever something came in the form of force or “power over,” he was a counter force to be reckoned with and would push back even harder. It was very difficult for Ben and us as his family unit, stress-filled and intense on a daily basis, but we had made great strides by the time his 18th birthday arrived, so much so that Ben was finally making and holding onto friendships, getting better grades, and holding a job. Socially, he succeeded in becoming a kid that was loved after many years of “not fitting in.” He was on top of the world.
An incident occurred on April 16, 2009 that resulted in Ben’s suspension from school and from attending his prom, which must have felt like having the rug pulled out from underneath this one major success in his short life - social acceptance by his peers. On the day he took his life, we believe the loss of his prom caused him to brain-lock. We wish that this decision had not been made so quickly and do not understand why, given Ben’s history, we did not have a chance to meet with his team collectively before his sentence was handed down. If we had, I believe that Ben would still be here with us now.
Ben went home and took his life that day. His last message to us included the line “I just don’t see the point.” Resignation at so young an age, after 18 years of pushing against an antiquated system… and currently we have an epidemic of suicide amongst our young people. Since his death, Ben has been speaking louder than words to me, his mother. I am taking a stand because we must find better ways to support these gifted, sensitive, and exceptional children.
There is a lot that I still do not know or understand. But what I do know is this: every day is a choice and each of us, no matter what life challenges we face, get to choose life or death in every moment and that we are powerful creators without measure.
Through Ben, I have become a role model for change and a teacher, mentor and voice for accountability and growing oneself strong from the inside out. I live my life in gratitude for this opportunity to serve through the countless lessons and blessings I have learned in the raising and loss of Ben Giovangelo, who continues to be my greatest teacher.
With All My Love,
Judy Giovangelo
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ABOUT US
​​Vision Statement
Ben Speaks… creating a culture where youth and families have access to the resources and support they need to empower themselves.
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​​​​Our Mission
Ben Speaks provides positive channels of expression and empowerment for a whole person approach to wellness through clinical and holistic resources and education.
​Core Values
Empowerment: Empower youth and families to take control of their lives by providing tools and resources to make positive choices
Wellness: Promote a whole person approach by integrating holistic and clinical techniques and methodologies
Community and Collaboration: Collaborate with other agencies/partners; be a key player facilitating access to available resources in the larger community
Accountable: Serve as honest, transparent and ethical stewards of resources entrusted to us; have necessary organizational structure and internal controls.
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Who is a Ben?
A Ben is artistic, creative, intuitive, sensitive, and high empath
A Ben is unique and beats to his/her/their own drum
A Ben is a kinesthetic and visual learner
A Ben is labelled with a mental illness or learning disability at an early age
A Ben is a daydreamer and can become easily distracted
He or she does not fit the mainstream box – Is a round peg!
A Ben resists control and thwarts authority
A Ben is often medicated early in life
A Ben feels like a misfit and struggles to fit in
A Ben is an easy mark for the bully or becomes one
A Ben often develops a strong inner critic
A Ben tends to self-harm in some way as a teenager
A Ben can become isolated and left out
A Ben often suffers with social anxiety & depression
A Ben is high risk for becoming a statistic TODAY!
A Ben is not broken
A Ben has one or many gifts to bring to the world and if nurtured is a future entrepreneur, out of the box thinker and creator of inventions that could potentially save this planet.
There is a little bit of Ben in all of us!
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A Ben is NOT broken. A Ben has gifts to bring to the world. There is a little bit of Ben in all of us.
BEN SPEAKS PLEDGE
​The Pledge
I pledge allegiance
To be myself
And to BE a stand for change!
To take full responsibility
For my thoughts, words, feelings and actions
To treat myself and all those around me
With kindness and respect
To trust my gifts
To put my energy into growing myself fully
To be a voice for a world where all human beings
Are loved and accepted for who they are
One World
Under Grace
Indivisible
With Dignity
and true justice for ALL
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Judy Giovangelo,
Ben Speaks Founder & Vice President
Judy Giovangelo (Ben's Mom) is bringing awareness through Power of Choice presentations & workshops for youth, family and community groups. She brings the message that each of us,including our children, are 100% responsible for our individual thoughts, words, feelings, actions and reactions and reminds us that we are the creators of our own experience bringing positive tools for change.
Through Ben Speaks Resource Office in Holliston MA, families can access a full spectrum of resources. Go to our Community Partners page to access all of them. Resources include: Emergency, Grief Support, Therapeutic, Healing, Mental Health, Addiction, Nutrition & Expressive Arts.
“My family suffered greatly as result of a mental illness that was not supported by our community and society. There were limited resources and outlets for our energetic, out of the box, highly creative child. Our son, Ben, chose to take his life on April 16, 2009. He was just 18 years old. Ben was a creative, authentic, empathic, sensitive, highly intuitive young man and had a lot to share. Had he been given creative channels to direct his high level of energy and had adequate resources to manage his mental health, perhaps he would still be with us today. I have heard hundreds of stories from other families dealing with similar issues. We would like to create new and innovative solutions to give our children a positive outlet to express themselves and the tools to fully manifest their dreams no matter what challenges they face.”
- Judy Giovangelo
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